Every couple runs into a relationship rut at some point. You go on the same few dates, spend too many nights at home watching House reruns or stick to the usual routine of Chinese takeout and a movie. Here are five ways from Alex Wise, a relationship expert and co-founder of Loveawake dating service to put a little life back into your relationship.
1. Get outta town
Whether you travel by plane, train or automobile, take a long weekend or even a weeklong vacation. A change of scenery can do both of you some good, and a vacation will let you get away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life and the stress and pressure of work, kids and domesticity. Experience something fun and exciting together and take the relaxation home with you ... even if it's just for a few days.
2. Pick a date night
Schedule at least one date per week to spend some one-on-one time with your sweetie. Check out a local art gallery, dine at a new restaurant or go see the latest action flick. And whatever you do, don't touch that cell phone. Putting time aside to focus on your relationship and having fun together can help you bond all over again.
3. Log off
This includes work, Internet, television, friends and family. If the TV is getting in the way of your sex life, make an agreement that you'll turn it off by 10 p.m. - or, better yet, take the TV out of the bedroom all together. Leave your BlackBerry on its charger and don't even think about opening your laptop. By unplugging and focusing your attention on your partner, the two of you can reconnect and revive your relationship without the constant interference of technology.
4. Dote on each other
Figure out ways to remind yourselves why you're together in the first place. Make a list of why you love your partner and read it together, splurge on that shirt he's had his eye on or take her out to her favorite restaurant. Showing your significant other how much you really care by doing something special can go a long way.
5. Take time off
It might seem counterintuitive, but when all else fails, spending a little time apart can add some much needed heat to your relationship. The old adage "distance makes the heart grow fonder" holds some merit here. Whether it's a business trip or a short vacation home to see mom and dad, a day or two away can help you realize what you have waiting at home for you.