DAILY CANDLE RITUAL



This is a simple but sacred way to connect with your
partner every day. The Daily Candle Ritual is
nourishment for the soul of your relationship.


The ritual takes only a minute and should be done
every day whether you feel like it or not,
especially if you don't feel like it. Over time, it
becomes a point of safety and connection in the
relationship. At first, it may seem that the ritual is
too simple to be meaningful.

Trust that it is not too simple.

Do the ritual exactly as described without making
any changes. One of the values of the ritual is
that it is reliably the same every time. It speaks
to our bodies, not our minds. It talks to us in
ways our minds do not understand.


THE RITUAL

THE GROUND RULES

THE HOST


THE COUPLE AGREES
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THE RITUAL STATEMENTS

MEN

Men to Partner: "I Care About You"
Women respond: "I Heard You Say, You Care About Me"

WOMEN

Women to Partner: "I Appreciate You"
Men respond: "I Heard You Say, You Appreciate Me"
 
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This is a simple but sacred way to connect with your partner every day. The Daily Candle Ritual is 
nourishment for the soul of your relationship.


The ritual takes only a minute and should be done every day whether you feel like it or not,
especially if you don't feel like it. Over time, it becomes a point of safety and connection in the
relationship. At first, it may seem that the ritual is too simple to be meaningful.

Trust that it is not too simple.

Do the ritual exactly as described without making any changes. One of the values of the ritual is that it is reliably the same every time. It speaks to our bodies, not our minds. It talks to us in ways our minds do not understand.


THE RITUAL

THE GROUND RULES

THE HOST

THE COUPLE AGREES
~~~~~~~~~~~~~*~~~~~~~~~~~~~

THE RITUAL STATEMENTS

MEN

Man to Partner: "I Care About You"
Women respond: "I Heard You Say, You Care About Me"

WOMEN

Woman to Partner: "I Appreciate You"
Men respond: "I Heard You Say, You Appreciate Me"