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exercise is a perfect one to start with as it will help to re-connect
you with your body and your breath. You can do this just before you go
to sleep on your own, or you can do it with your lover and create a
special evening, introducing a new texture to your relationship. Some
side-effects of regular practice may include: feeling more alive,
achieving relaxation even in a tense ever-moving world, and a
re-awakening of sensuality making way for more pleasure in lovemaking
as well as in everyday activities.
- Begin lying down, sitting or standing across from your partner (or on your own) with your eyes closed.
- Become aware of the breath moving in and out of your body. Let your mouth fall open and take both the in and out
breath through your mouth. Feel as though the breath is caressing you
from the inside, swirling through your body as it enters you.
- Feel the breath moving deep into your body to the tips of your fingers, deep into your belly
- Now imagine the breath moving all the way into your genitals,
gently massaging them from the inside. Create a different relationship
with them than we might be used to, allowing them to open and relax,
rather than responding to stimulation.
- Continue with the breath in this way for 10 to 15 minutes.
This may be challenging for you, that is fine, just like flexing a
muscle we have not used in a long time, it simply takes practice.
you feel confident that you can truly feel the breath caressing the
genitals, then you can move onto the next stage; tightening and releasing the PC muscle.
This is the muscle that you would use if you were urinating and you
wanted to stop the flow of urine. For this part of the practice you
will be tightening as you breathe in and releasing when you exhale. We
are simply continuing to build a new relationship with this part of the
body. Maintaining this for 5 minutes is a great start, though you can
do it for up to 15 or 20 minutes.
- The final stage for building the energy is to add a rocking of the pelvis.
Breathing in, rocking back and tightening the PC muscle; breathing out,
rocking forward and releasing. Now, all three at once may seem like
patting your head and rubbing your tummy at the same time-remember that
you don’t have to get it ‘right’. The most important thing is just
that you create a connection to your genitals in a new way, however
that happens for you is fine.
- Now, after at least 15 minutes of focusing on your connection to yourself, you can stop, open your eyes and gaze at your partner.
This process is so simple, and can create such intimacy, yet we hardly
ever do it. You can imagine that you are seeing this person for the
first time, truly let them in. You may feel like giggling, you may
even feel like crying. Once again, there are no rules in tantra,
whatever comes naturally is fine and all you need do is stay in touch
with whatever you are feeling in any given moment.
Important to know
No two Tantra exercises are alike. This example is very powerful when
done fully, and still, it is the tip of the iceberg as far as Tantra
goes. Tantra works with breath (as described above), movement, sound,
and guided meditation-anything that will get you to re-connect with the
true responses in the body. Other meditations
might include shaking the body, partner yoga positions, making sounds
on different parts of your lovers body, or blindfolding your partner
and offering them things to delight their senses. Finally, Tantra
offers actual lovemaking techniques. This exercise is perfect for
beginning your Tantric journey and it is just as effective when done
alone as it is with a partner.